Vocabulary

お歳暮(お・せい・ぼ)

year-end presents

お中元(お・ちゅう・げん)

Bon festival gifts

あげる ru-verb

to give; to raise

くれる ru-verb

to give

もらう u-verb

to receive

One thing about Japanese culture is that they’re big on giving gifts. There are many different customs involving giving and receiving gifts (お歳暮、お中元、etc.) and when Japanese people go traveling, you can be sure that they’re going to be picking up souvenirs to take back as gifts. Even when attending marriages or funerals, people are expected to give a certain amount of money as a gift to help fund the ceremony. You can see why properly learning how to express the giving and receiving of favors and items is a very important and useful skill. For some reason, the proper use of あげる、くれる、and もらう has always haunted people studying Japanese as being horribly complex and intractable. I hope to prove in this section that it is conceptually quite straightforward and simple.

Vocabulary

あげる ru-verb

to give; to raise

私(わたし)

me; myself; I

友達(とも・だち)

friend

プレゼント(pu re ze n to)

present

これ

this

先生(せん・せい)

teacher

車(くるま)

car

買う(か・う) u-verb

to buy

代わり(か・わり)

substitute

行く(い・く) u-verb

to go

学生(がく・せい)

student

父(ちち)

father

いい i-adj

good

こと

event, matter

教える(おし・える) ru-verb

to teach; to inform

あげる is the Japanese word for “to give” seen from the speaker’s point of view. You must use this verb when you are giving something or doing something for someone else.

Examples

1. 私が友達にプレゼントをあげた。
   I gave present to friend.

2. これは先生にあげる。
   I’ll give this to teacher.

In order to express the giving of a favor (verb) you must use the ever useful te-form and then attach あげる. This applies to all the other sections in this lesson as well.

1. 車を買ってあげるよ。
   I’ll give you the favor of buying a car.

2. 代わりに行ってあげる。
   I’ll give you the favor of going in your place.

For third-person, this verb is used when the speaker is looking at it from the giver’s point of view. We’ll see the significance of this when we examine the verb くれる next.

1. 学生がこれを先生にあげる。
   The student give this to teacher. (looking at it from the student’s point of view)

2. 友達が父にいいことを教えてあげた。
   Friend gave the favor of teaching something good to my dad. (looking at it from the friend’s point of view)

Vocabulary

犬(いぬ)

dog

餌(えさ)

food for animals

やる u-verb

to do

Usually used for pets, animals, and such, you can substitute やる, which normally means “to do”, for あげる. You shouldn’t use this type of やる for people because it is used when looking down on someone and can be offensive.

• 犬に餌をやった？
  Did you give the dog food?

Here, やる does not mean “to do” but “to give”. You can tell because “doing food to dog” doesn’t make any sense.

Vocabulary

くれる ru-verb

to give

友達(とも・だち)

friend

私(わたし)

me; myself; I

プレゼント(pu re ze n to)

present

これ

this

先生(せん・せい)

teacher

車(くるま)

car

買う(か・う) u-verb

to buy

代わり(か・わり)

substitute

行く(い・く) u-verb

to go

学生(がく・せい)

student

父(ちち)

father

いい i-adj

good

こと

event, matter

教える(おし・える) ru-verb

to teach; to inform

あげる ru-verb

to give; to raise

全部(ぜん・ぶ)

everything

食べる(た・べる) ru-verb

to eat

くれる is also a verb meaning “to give” but unlike あげる, it is from the receiver’s point of view. You must use this verb when someone else is giving something or doing something for you (effectively the opposite of あげる).

Examples

1. 友達が私にプレゼントをくれた。
   Friend gave present to me.

2. これは、先生がくれた。
   Teacher gave this to me.

3. 車を買ってくれるの？
   You’ll give me the favor of buying a car for me?

4. 代わりに行ってくれる？
   Will you give me the favor of going in my place?

Similarly, when used in the third-person, the speaker is speaking from the receiver’s point of view and not the giver.

1. 先生がこれを学生にくれる。
   The teacher give this to student. (looking at it from the student’s point of view)

2. 友達が父にいいことを教えてくれた。
   Friend gave favor of teaching something good to my dad. (looking at it from the dad’s point of view)

The following diagram illustrates the direction of giving from the point of view of the speaker.

From the speaker’s point of view, all the giving done to others “go up” to everybody else while the giving done by everybody else “goes down” to the speaker. This is probably related to the fact that there is an identical verb 上げる meaning “to raise” that contains the character for “above” (上) and that the honorific version of くれる is 下さる with the character for down (下). This restriction allows us to make certain deductions from vague sentences like the following:

• 先生が教えてあげるんですか。
  Teacher, will you be the one to give favor of teaching to… [anybody other than the speaker]?

Because all giving done to the speaker must always use くれる, we know that the teacher must be doing it for someone else and not the speaker. The speaker is also looking at it from the teacher’s point of view as doing a favor for someone else.

• 先生が教えてくれるんですか。
  Teacher, will you be the one to give favor of teaching to… [anybody including the speaker]?

Because the giver is not the speaker, the teacher is either giving to the speaker or anyone else. The speaker is viewing it from the receiver’s point of view as receiving a favor done by the teacher.

Let’s see some mistakes to watch out for.

• 私が全部食べてくれました。
  くれる is being used as giving done by the speaker. (Wrong)

• 私が全部食べてあげました。
  I gave favor of eating it all. (Correct)

• 友達がプレゼントを私にあげた。
  あげる is being used as giving to the speaker. (Wrong)

• 友達がプレゼントを私にくれた。
  Friend gave present to me. (Correct)

Vocabulary

私(わたし)

me; myself; I

友達(とも・だち)

friend

プレゼント(pu re ze n to)

present

もらう u-verb

to receive

これ

this

買う(か・う) u-verb

to buy

宿題(しゅく・だい)

homework

チェック(che k ku)

check

する exception

to do

時間(じ・かん)

time

ある u-verb

to exist (inanimate)

無理(む・り)

impossible

その

that （abbr. of それの）

時計(と・けい)

watch; clock

もらう meaning, “to receive” has only one version unlike あげる／くれる so there’s very little to explain. One thing to point out is that since you receive from someone, から is also appropriate in addition to the に target particle.

Examples

1. 私が友達にプレゼントをもらった。
   I received present from friend.

2. 友達からプレゼントをもらった。
   I received present from friend.

3. これは友達に買ってもらった。
   About this, received the favor of buying it from friend.

4. 宿題をチェックしてもらいたかったけど、時間がなくて無理だった。
   I wanted to receive the favor of checking homework but there was no time and it was impossible.

もらう is seen from the perspective of the receiver, so in the case of first-person, others usually don’t receive things from you. However, you might want to use 私からもらう when you want to emphasize that fact that the other person received it from you. For instance, if you wanted to say, “Hey, I gave you that!” you would use あげる. However, you would use もらう if you wanted to say, “Hey, you got that from me!”

• その時計は私からもらったのよ。
  (He) received that watch from me.

Vocabulary

千円(せん・えん)

1,000 yen

貸す(か・す) u-verb

lend

する exception

to do

くれる ru-verb

to give

もらう u-verb

to receive

あなた

you

私(わたし)

me; myself; I

ちょっと

a little

静か(しず・か) na-adj

quiet

漢字(かん・じ)

Kanji

書く(か・く) u-verb

to write

You can make requests by using くれる and the potential form of もらう (can I receive the favor of…). We’ve already seen an example of this in example 4 of the くれる section. Because requests are favors done for the speaker, you cannot use あげる in this situation.

Examples

1. 千円を貸してくれる？
   Will you give me the favor of lending 1000 yen?

2. 千円を貸してもらえる？
   Can I receive the favor of you lending 1000 yen?

Notice that the two sentences essentially mean the same thing. This is because the giver and receiver has been omitted because it is obvious from the context. If we were to write out the full sentence, it would look like this:

1. あなたが、私に千円を貸してくれる？
   Will you give me the favor of lending 1000 yen?

2. 私が、あなたに千円を貸してもらえる？
   Can I receive the favor of you lending 1000 yen?

It is not normal to explicitly include the subject and target like this when directly addressing someone but is provided here to illustrate the change of subject and target depending on the verb くれる and もらえる.

You can use the negative to make the request a little softer. You’ll see that this is true in many other types of grammar.

1. ちょっと静かにしてくれない？
   Won’t you be a little quieter?

2. 漢字で書いてもらえませんか。
   Can you write this in kanji for me?

Vocabulary

全部(ぜん・ぶ)

everything

食べる(た・べる) ru-verb

to eat

くれる ru-verb

to give

高い(たか・い) i-adj

high; tall; expensive

物(もの)

object

買う(か・う) u-verb

to buy

In order to request that someone not do something, you simply attach で to the negative form of the verb and proceed as before.

1. 全部食べないでくれますか。
   Can you not eat it all?

2. 高い物を買わないでくれる？
   Can you not buy expensive thing(s)?